I just read a piece at Kleefeld on Comics (Love Romances) about whether it's a good idea for a comic fan to seek out relationships among other comic fans.
While I think it's cool to share interests, I think the important thing is that the other party shouldn't be hostile to comics, or look down on them (and you, for your interest).
The husband and I met in college. I was still getting comics at the time, but I didn't have them at school with me, and while I'm sure I mentioned that I read them I don't remember talking about them much with him. He likes comics, will read them if they are around (and boy, are they around!) but I think he'd also be perfectly happy never to read another one. He doesn't mind them, even enjoys them to a point, but doesn't seek them out. More importantly, though, he thinks it's great that I like them, and he's fine with the girls reading them as well. He respects the medium. And he's quite fond of a few particular titles; the girls and I aren't allowed to discuss the latest Cable and Deadpool until he's read it. :)
But we both have a number of interests, many of which we just don't share with each other. You're not about to get me out shooting black powder rifles, and he hasn't a flicker of interest in taking up quilting. The important thing is that we each support the other's interests, and that we have plenty of other interests that we do share. It also helps that we like each other. :)
However, it's possible that, if you really only have one main interest that overwhelms all others--an uber-hobby, so to speak--you really ought to try to find a partner who shares it. :)
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